If you can pull off crazy magic tricks or dance well or sing or play an instrument, people are more likely to be drawn to you as well.
People like people with skills- those that they lack, especially with opposite sex.
Whatever the reason is, rather than giving bunches of theories, I’ve put together simplified practical hacks to answer the question “My crush doesn’t like me back what do I do?” and start the “I love you” lifestyle you’ve dreamt of.
Please get yourself a cup of coffee and walk into a quiet room where it’s only you and me communicating. I have good news for you!
How to Make Your Crush Fall in Love With You Without Talking
More than making him like you back, you want to show him that you’re everything he’s ever wanted, but how?
1. See him a lot
Familiarity breeds attraction. The more you see someone, the more attracted they will become to you. This goes regardless of how attractive you actually are or how attractive they initially found you.
In the same way, studies show that just seeing someone frequently can boost how attractive you think they are. Here is…
What to do
Get some face time with him. Do this only if it can be done naturally; don’t be a stalker and show up at places where you think he’ll be … well, don’t do that too often anyway!
It’s fine if, for example, you were invited to a birthday party and normally wouldn’t have gone, but you know he’ll be there, so that changes your mind.
If you see him a lot and he’s had ample opportunity to take things to the next level and he isn’t doing so, it’s because he doesn’t want to.
Familiarity breeds attraction, but it can also breed contempt. Remember there are two sides to every coin, and you need to go with what your gut is telling you, not just blindly follow a series of steps.
If you feel pretty strongly that he’s not interested, move on. Someone else out there will think you’re amazing. But if you think there’s a chance, he could be attracted to you, use this to make him more interested.
2. Ask for Small Favors
Ask them to do small favors for you. Nothing that requires much effort, things like can you hand me the remote please? or
Can you throw my sack of garbage away since you are passing the trash can on your way? or would you be so kind as to hold the door please?
I know what is going through your mind. you think they will get irritated with you asking for them to do things you could do for yourself.
You think it’s a way to get you to like them and you already do so that’s a waste of time, right?
It doesn’t work that way. You are not understanding what really happens in their head. That’s why you are in the friendzone.
What really happens in their head, especially when they start to wonder why they do all this shit for you, is that their subconscious mind begins to say I must really like this person.
If I didn’t like them, I wouldn’t be doing all these things for them.
And their subconscious mind convinces them that they love you. Then it becomes very difficult for them to see that they are being manipulated.
There is no way to change their mind as long as you keep getting them to do little things for you that you could just as easily do for yourself.
The strongest relationships are between people who are constantly asking each other for favors. They bond in a way that is a little too close for other people to understand.
3. Ask Him for a Dinner
Dinner, never lunch. Why dinner and not lunch? Lunch is for business meetings. Dinner implies romantic aspirations. Did he say yes? Okay, that’s the first firewall.
People think your soul mate is your perfect partner, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror.
He will show you all the things that hinder you. He will make you pay attention to yourself and change your life.
In every one of us there is darkness. In a healthy relationship, the best way they deal with a partner’s darkness is knowing themselves.
Take the time to work, let the past go, forgive and heal the part you need to heal, do your project, and it’s better not to be dark to your partner.
When many couples blame and criticize each other for the problems in their relationship and life, Significant Others in healthy relationships praise and admit each other constantly, honestly and openly.
You focus on the other person’s strengths rather than weaknesses, praise and reinforce positive behavior rather than negative behavior.
The basis of a relationship is made up of a lot of talking! It’s the only way to understand what the other person thinks and feels about things in everyday lives.
Besides, it’s through talking and opening up that we go about building a healthy relationship.
If something bothers you, speak up! If you have compliments for them, speak up again!
Want to comment on something you think is trivial? Speak! Do you have secrets or embarrassing feelings you want to share? Speak out!!!
How to Tell if You Are in a Healthy Relationship or Not.
Walter Trobisch in his book I MARRIED YOU, gave some six tests of love. From these you can tell if you are in a healthy relationship or not.
The Six Tests of Love
The Sharing Test
Do you feel like sharing with your partner? True love wants to share things. If you heard exciting news, do you first think of coming to share with your partner?
After God, who next do you remember if something interesting just came up in your life?
If you do not readily want to share with your partner, chances are that your love is in doubt.
The Strength Test
Love is a great booster of strength and enthusiasm. Love causes an inner satisfaction and joy which gives strength.
If you are in love, but rather feel low, depressed and deprived of energy; there is a big problem with your love.
The Respect Test
Does your partner command your respect, or is he or she in the same place with every other person in terms of gaining respect from you?
Will you be proud to have your partner be the father or mother of your children?
If your answers to these questions are in the affirmative, then you have passed the respect test. Your partner should occupy a special status in your heart.
The Habit Test
People have different habits, some good and some bad. A habit may not necessarily be bad, but you find it disgusting in your partner.
Of course, you have a choice to feel that way.
But the test question is: can you keep on tolerating those habits you find disgusting in your partner, assuming they do not change?
If you cannot, better reconsider your position, because there is no guarantee that a habit will change over time.
The Quarrel Test
How easy do you find it to forgive your partner? How soon do you reconcile after a serious quarrel? Soonest, later, or after a very long time, or never at all?
In healthy relationships, forgiveness and reconciliation is much easier. Do not be deceived to think that in true love you cannot quarrel at all.
That is a fantasy. As long as two persons are together, they are bound to differ in opinion sometimes.
But what is most important is the readiness to get back together after a quarrel. If you find it difficult to get back, your love may be in question.
The Time Test
Can your love survive the test of time? People naturally change over time, as they meet new people, challenges, situations etc.
Your partner may not be singing those love songs to you a few years from now.
Now you love him because he is the quiet type, but he may become an extrovert in the next 5 years.
Can you love this person, even when there have been remarkable changes from what you see at present? If you can, then you have an enduring, true love.
I need to say to you that this is one of the most interesting and controversial treads we have on this blog. Do you have the feeling that your boss likes you in a romantic way? Maybe…
Can I Really Tell if Your Boss Likes You in a Romantic Way?
Note: Don’t take all advice as fully professional. If you are truly in this shoe, you may need to see an attorney or a counselor.
Firstly, you need to understand that there are so many ways bosses can show how much they value your work without meaning they like you romantically. It may happen in the following ways:
Ways Bosses Can Show How Much They Value Your Work
They give you compliments on the work you’re doing.
You can not expect compliments all the time, and some people are just not great at giving them, but if a boss does give you a compliment be very grateful. They notice your work.
If you’re recognized for a job you have done at a team meeting, they’re going above and beyond to show you how they like the work you’re doing for them.
Often to show the team they’re valued, they’ll bring in lunch or have a special event for everyone. It may not show you directly you’re valued but, it does show the team is valued and you’re part of that team. Remember they don’t have to give you this perk.
Some bosses can give a direct feedback like, “you’re great” others are not as obvious but if they are giving you more and more responsibility they value your work and trust you’ll get it done right.
Sometimes they may even give you some extra time off to show how much they valued the work you did. This small perk of time costs them money and impacts the bottom line for them. They won’t give you time off if they don’t think what you have done for them is over the top.
Prizes, tickets to events, a chance to attend a conference you may have wanted to go to, and more, are all ways bosses will show you how much they value your work.
Other things like a warm smile and good morning hello say “I’m glad to see you.” It’s not always feasible to be giving out prizes and time off etc.
But just recognizing you and acknowledging your presence in larger firms is a way of saying “I know you, you’re great, keep up the good work”
That being said, If all the things mentioned below pertain to you, there are all chances you can be/ you’re attracted to your boss, thereby making him to like you in a romantic way. .
You are a human being
He/she is a human being
You are attractive, seductive, charming, beautiful, young or charismatic
He/she is sexually active with an ability to reproduce
You explicitly do not draw the boundaries of what is allowed and not allowed
He/she is professionally immature
He/she is emotionally weak
If you allow it
If the pleasure of the relationship is more than the pleasure of the career.
7 Signs to Tell if Your Boss Likes You in a Romantic Way
Your glances become locked eyes (did his pupils dilate?)
Casual, light touching. People don’t casually touch your hand or shoulder for no reason at all.
He/she wants to get close to you so they either stand by you, or lean in towards you to move closer.
They remove small, insignificant barriers. Is there a glass or coffee cup on your desk when he walks up? Does he move it aside?
If you catch him staring at you, does he smile back?
Does he mirror your body position? Body language? (you have your hands folded on the desk…he folds his hands on the desk across from you) etc.
Does he verbally mirror you? Use the same words conversationally?
“There is a job I had and my boss kept coming into my office to discuss the production schedules.
Even though no changes were ever made or even suggested in these meetings and well, production scheduling was my responsibility, not my boss’.
You’d think that if it was just to know what I was doing, I would either have been called to the boss’ office or asked to send the details over in an email.
About half the time, the boss closed the door to my office while coming in although there were no confidential plans to discuss.
The boss would often sit on the edge of my desk during these discussions.
I guess sitting in one of the chairs across from my desk would have given a feeling of reversal of roles, with me behind the desk and the boss in a chair facing me from the far side.
Since sitting on the other side of my desk did feel a little bit odd, the boss then started coming around and sitting on the end of my desk.
After Few weeks
She started sitting on my side of the desk beside my chair.
Sometimes the boss would lose balance for a second doing this and have to touch my shoulder to prevent falling off.
Sometimes the boss sat so close to me that the knees touched my arm and instead of quickly moving away, the pressure was steady.
The boss almost always wore a tight skirt when doing this and almost always sat on my desk with her knees facing me.
They were too close together to actually flash me but still it was teasing me for a peek.
She often leaned in close to me when talking too. Not quite far enough to reveal her cleavage but far enough that it was hard not to look just in case.
I’m pretty sure my boss was attracted to me but she was careful enough not to say it in so many words so it never progressed any further than the above. ”
What Can You Do? Can You Take it Further?
The ball is in your court. If you want to take this further then that is not his/her responsibility.
But it should be tread very carefully. Wait for your boss to make it happen.
Remember – right now everything is romantic, sweet, lovable and nice.
One day when the romance, the magic and the honeymoon phase is over – that is when pure hell breaks out.
And that is where all the problems begin. So is this worth it? You decide.
However, if the relationship is more important – ask your boss to help you get a better job elsewhere and then continue the relationship without any problems.
Also remember: he could possibly be or have been like this with many women, many new employees to the company.
How I met my wife
I met my wife at work (I was senior to her, though I was not her boss at that time.
But the moment we got married, I realized that she will be the boss at all points of time).
Thanks to God, we are now happily married. Last year she started school for her masters and had to resign from our company.
There are many couples where this is working.
I have seen many cases where this worked beautifully. It’s about understanding and complementing each other.
If you believe that your boss understands you both personally and professionally and cares for your personal and professional development, then either she/he is a very good boss or he/she may be interested in you beyond a professional relationship.
You can find out for sure by asking personal questions about his/her personal plans and dropping hints about your own future plans.
All the same, the hash advice of most people has always been:
“Be cautious, especially if you have to ask the question”
You are putting your job in jeopardy. Owners and upper management tend to side with their supervisors in workplace drama.
If your job is easily replaceable and you don’t mind people talking about you behind your back, then straight up ask him.
Pick a time when you KNOW he is flirting with you. Say, “I get the feeling there is something special going on here between us. Wanna see where it goes?”
That gives him an opportunity to say yes or to say no. If he says no, I think he will just be flattered and you can return to work the next day without feeling like you creeped on him.
I hope this article has helped you to understand the nuances of this matter and has helped you in making a uniform decision.
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Why Search for a Love Story Blog or Watch Love Stories?
That’s because we get hope from them. Many of us imaging ourselves as the main character, and at the end we get hope. I mean we actually live in love for a moment and feel loved. When they survive, we can survive too. That’s what a love story blog can do for you.
What’s in it?
I have handpicked the 2 best love story blog (s). One from Africa and the second, which is a world best story blog. The love stories are written by individuals with different love ordeals…
In this article I’ll share two blogs / sites that share such stories. My approach to this is to make sure that I share love story blogs with non-fiction stories.
With over 90million+ monthly visitors as claimed by the platform, Wattpad is a world widely served platform that creates an audience who can directly interact with the writers and share their opinions with fellow readers.
From my experience, although Wattpad has copyright issues due to the free access for users, there are over 665 million story uploads in total, which is an endless route for someone in search of romance and love stories.
For tasks such as, Editing, creating, or reading stories, view profiles, comment or vote stories and post messages requires a registration.
Is Wattpad a Love Story Blog?
Yes. Just like Ebony story, Wattpad allows writers to publish user-generated content of different genres and for different groups.
Android, iOS, Web.
English, other 49 available languages. (actual count of: 32 languages).
Access to 665 million posts, your choice Free, (unless you get Premium to turn off ads) Multilingual – In up to 50 different languages Good for learning or practising a new language Free access to share your story to the world
Signup – Registration required to start reading Categories – Not solely for love stories. Comprises both fiction and non-fiction stories Lots of unfinished products
Note: Although this site wholly requires an account registration to gain access to this website, it can still be accessed via clicking the links to their user-created stories or to their account profiles.
Wattpad was founded in December 2006; 14 years ago by Allen Lau and Ivan Yuen.
Both Ebony story blog and Wattpad are good and secure. Also, Ebony story is never an alternative for Wattpad, hands down. However, Ebony story is an African love story blog with non-fiction stories.
So there you have it. Read endlessly as you enjoy your moments with your favourites.
Don’t forget to spread the love by sharing with your friends on social media.
That moment after I invited her for a mini date at night, I was lost in thought about whether to tell her how beautiful she was, how I felt the first time I saw her. Hmmn, distorting the grave silence was even my first concern.
I cleared my throat as I broke the silence. She was looking deep inside my heart. I could thoroughly read from her face.
We’ve been on a blind date for a month. That day, we met for the first time, so, it was a moment that we spent a lot of time together. I love reading love stories and it saved me that night.
In this post, I’ll share 3 different cute love stories you can tell your girlfriend. Depending on how creative you are, you can narrate with the Plus(+) and Minus(-) signs in few minutes.
The Purpose of these Love Stories
These stories are utterly emotional, and will create a new bond between you and your girlfriend. She will love you 1,000 times more.
Herb Cohen, USA, the world’s foremost expert on the art of negotiation, shared some formal meeting rules. Read and download for free.
Why Follow Rules in a Meeting?
Following rules keep pretty much everything in order. Generally, rules often create an ideal environment for people to co-exist, thus creating order and peace especially in a topic like this where we have professionals from different fields.
If you want to take your conversation to the next level in a meeting, you must create a first impression by following the specific rules for a formal meeting before you take it one step up.
In this article, I will open up to you the strict rules and orders to follow in a formal meeting. This article expresses the rules and ethics in both physical and virtual meetings.
So let’s get straight into it…
10 Formal Meeting Rules
Mind the Time!
Be on time, or be 5 minutes early if possible. No one likes to wait or listen to stupid excuses… Appreciate others time & schedule by being on time and finishing on time.
Herb Cohen, USA, the world’s foremost expert on the art of negotiation, shared how one person called another a liar at a summit.
“We were supposed to begin at 10.00 A.M, and three of us were present at that time. While waiting for the fourth person to arrive, those already present kept glancing at their watches.
Finally, twenty-five minutes after the hour, Mr. Tardy walks in”.
“Ahem, I’d like to apologize somewhat for being a bit late,” he said. He didn’t stop there. “Although it looks like I’m twenty minutes late, I’m really not” When I first got…
Truly, we realized we were dealing with a person who was immature and unreliable. Unintentionally, he had affected the level of trust.”
What should he have done? ✒If you are twenty-five minutes late, you ought to say, “Please forgive me. I’m terribly sorry for keeping you waiting. I’m almost an hour late.
✒Everyone is busy. When you are late, the other person feels devalued. Being late says, my time is more important than yours. If this happens, you need to call and be responsible for your actions. Don’t make excuses, just be straight. “I am running 25 minutes late”
Check Your Attire!
Always do your research to be sure you present a relatable visual image to your audience.
✒Even if the future looks bright, please avoid wearing sunglasses on your head or face during a business meeting. Worse, you could be viewed as untrustworthy in certain industries and cultures.
Silent or Switch Off your Cell Phone
Having your cell phone in front of you during a business meeting is a distraction to both you and your clients and it sends a negative message that you don’t mind interrupting your meeting for something inconsequential
In today’s information age, managing emails, text messages, and phone calls takes considerable time. During business meetings, whether at your office, the office of a client, Cell phones should be turned off or on silent and be out of sight during business meetings.
Don’t be Desperate
Business likes winners – if you are one, show it; if you’re not one yet, showcase your winning expertise. Try not to Appear Desperate.
If you want business from someone, remind them periodically of your existence; don’t expect them to remember you from one conversation or trade show meeting.
Master Communication Techniques
Study various communication styles and learn how to identify an individual’s style of communication. This will allow you to approach the person with the most effective communication techniques.
✒You must be a good listener. There is no point imposing your views on others without some debate. No one has a monopoly on good ideas or good advice.
Formal Business Rule 6 : Good Gesture
✒When you’re meeting a new client, or customer, take the time to introduce yourself and build a rapport. Follow up after the meeting and discuss possible businesses.
When asked for a business card, stop what you’re doing, greet the person asking and show interest in him/her. Never turn your back on the prospective customer. If you don’t have a business card, explain that you ran out, ask for his or her card and follow up.
Also, stand when meeting a new client or shaking hands. Remaining seated while being introduced or shaking hands is disrespectful. Pretend like the person you are meeting is of some interest to you at the moment.
✒When someone introduces themselves to you at an event, it’s an opportunity for an exchange of value to occur. Focus your attention on them, and if you need to leave, excuse yourself, thank them, and move on gracefully.
In this day of email correspondence, it is easy to become too informal. Learn to write a strong, appropriate business letter the old fashioned way and use it in your email. Use of acronyms is rude and unprofessional.
✒When writing email, be sure to address the person by the correct title, and by all means, spell their name right! Proofread it at least three times before you send it and have not her pair of eyes review it, too. You’ll be rewarded with a great, professional first impression!
The Power of the Written Word!
✒Do not underestimate the importance of the written word in communication at a virtual meeting . A poorly written message will have a greater impact on your business.
90% of the time, you can correct your own writing mistakes. Most errors are due to hasty writings, the most important part of the writing is the tone.
If the tone of the message is wrong, the message will be lost on getting to the reader. Please proofread your work and write well.
✒Spend your time telling your potential client what they do Right and not what they do Wrong! Tell the.m what they do right and they will continue to do right by saying YES!
✒Impress your clients and partners by communicating appreciation. Stating “thank you” will elevate you above competitors. Whether large or small, the gesture will have an impact.
Mind the Talk! – Formal Meeting Rule
If you happen to overhear someone discussing a situation and it is evident that you have a solution, resist the urge to ride to the rescue on the spot…especially if you have not yet met!
It’s a big turn-off and the person you are offering your services to won’t generally be open to hearing what you have to say.
✒Don’t give your sales pitch as if you’re throwing up, i.e. loud, in one breath, and ends with an “aah I’m done” kind of expression… Breath, ask questions, and let others talk too….
Final Words on Formal Meeting Rules
Do not be too casual with your clients. Although it is important to build strong relationships, keep it professional at all times.
Also, like I stated, “Check your attire! Always do your research to be sure you present a relatable visual image to your audience”
However, I have learnt that the guy with the sharp looking suit and big car was all appearance and most times with no money. Now I treat everyone equally, as it should be. So, never disqualify by appearance.